This week, I held my first taker lecture in the Cyres Café. The Taker is my first book that I have written on my insights in people as a result of years of coaching. It started off at 20h with an intimate crowd attending. Some had already told me that they would attend when being present on former showings of our movie series that we hold at the café.

It is always nice to talk about what is close to your heart and at the same time it is also scary to do that! One of the biggest fear we all have is being ridiculed for what is close to our heart, being rediculed for who we really are. That is one of the reasons why most prefer never to reveal their true self. Most prefer to show an accepted image of themselves so that they will not run any danger. And even if others laugh at them, still they will not feel hurt, because they know it is not their true self.

Even though I have spoken about the Taker many many times, it still gives me some scary feelings to reveal part of what I see to be real.

As I was explaining the taker mindset to the attending crowd, I could feel and see clearly in the body language that for some it was confronting. Being mostly givers, it is for a lot not easy to make a mindshift that turns your life around. It took me a few years to completely integrate the taker mindset for myself and use it to my own success. I know how confronting it can be when you come out of giving and proving yourself worhty and not getting there or be appreciated for that. The story of working hard and not being noticed by one’s boss ringed very familiar bells. I explained about the 2 layered reality that real takers use in this world, the difference about the outer layer and the reality behind it.

I lectured for about 2 hours. Afterwards a few people came for a more private talk with me and one even told me that these had been the two most important hours in his life up to now. He was going to call upon his friend to tell him that he should have been here. He was an engineer, was already familiar with personal development, but felt as if he had been running against a cieling up to now, that he could not really make change. Now he felt as if a veil was lifted and he was very happy for that.

Back in the café down stairs, the discussions about the Taker continued and I felt myself with a couple that proved to be most exceptional people. We had a discussion that was off this world about the real nature of reality, the future of mankind and how boring all the old patterns seem. Truely a great conversation!

Although the building of the café takes time, as all true and great things do, I am very grateful for the people that show up at the café. Perhaps it is an answering to my intention. I intended in the building of the café to set up a meeting place where special people would come and feel at home…people that go and think beyound the accepted norm. With every day that goes by I feel more and more reflected back to me that these are indeed the people that show up in the café. I can honestly tell you that the people I have met so far since opening the café have proved to be more interesting that all the people I have met my previous lifetime. I feel it is only starting and that we are building our league of extraordinary people. I have come here to make a difference and I feel that the real magic, that will be off this world, will go far beyound what I dared to imagine! A lot of my ScFi dreams will prove to be more real than I ever imagined.

I can only encourage you to go for your dream…living everybody elses life was not what you came for…

Cris.