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The Confident Leader
1. What are the keys to making difficult decisions?
There are essentially two processes at our disposal for making decisions. The fist is rational (based on our thoughts), and the second is emotive (based on our feelings). The second includes the feelings that you’re aware of (excited, interested, skeptical, unsure, afraid, etc.) as well as your intuition or gut feeling.
We owe it to ourselves to use both of these processes when faced with a difficult decision. First, assess your gut reaction. What feels right? Then go through a logical analysis, weighing the pros and cons. Then assess your emotional reaction again. Has it changed?
Bear in mind that much of the research on decision making shows that people are happier with their decisions when they go with their gut reaction or follow their heart. This may be because we try to rationalize our decisions based on what we think we “should” do, but it’s sometimes difficult to change our feelings based on reason.
Our feelings are most helpful in making a decision when they are positive ones. Positive feelings (happiness, liking, interest) compel us toward something while negative feelings (fear, sadness, jealousy) compel us away from something. For example, if you are nervous your feelings may tell you to avoid taking action when in reality this is not the best choice.
So, when in doubt, or if you’re stuck, go with your feelings, especially if they are positive ones.
2. The top 5 mistakes that people make when confronting an important change?
When faced with an important decision or change most people make one of the following common mistakes:
1) They avoid the opportunity. They choose to settle for the status quo rather than going after an incredible change because they fear failure and humiliation.
2) They go after the opportunity before they are ready. They plunge right in (knowing that if they don’t take action, they never will). The problem is that they haven’t adequately prepared. They haven’t lined up the resources and support that they need. They haven’t created a plan. They may be successful, but it is more due to luck than strategy.
3) They dilute their responsibility. They go after the opportunity, but choose to be a follower rather than a leader. This way, if it doesn’t work, they aren’t to blame, but if it does, they can claim partial victory.
4) They rely on old crutches. They go for it, but do so with their old crutches and habits which hold them back from truly pursuing the opportunity.
5) They retreat at the first sign of failure. Unfortunately many people escape from uncomfortable situations too early—before they have a chance to get used to the anxiety and achieve their goals.
You see, avoidance is the number one killer of confidence and high-achievement. All five of the mistakes above entail some form of avoidance. The solution is to make a choice and stick to it 100%.
3. As business owners, why do we need to become confident leaders?
Whether you own a business of 1 (you) or 1,000, you are the leader—of yourself, your business, your life. As a leader, your confidence will determine what you achieve as well as how others respond to you and your business.
In terms of business growth, your confidence will enable you to take on key challenges in growing your business, such as:
• Describing the benefits of your business and educating others why they should do business with you.
• Getting yourself to do the marketing activities that you want to avoid (things like public speaking, networking, running a blog) but you know would help you build your business.
• Inspiring others (your employees, virtual assistants, contractors) to stay motivated and see the big picture.
• Presenting your business from a standpoint of conviction and value (which attracts others and makes them want to do business with you) rather than insecurity or desperation.
4. How can we tell if we (or others) lack confidence?
The number one thing to look for is avoidance. When people have confidence, they will take on all sorts of things, feeling secure that even if they “fail,” they’ll work it out. On the other hand, when we lack confidence, we tend to avoid situations when we fear we could fail, embarrass ourselves, or let ourselves or others done.
Keep in mind that avoidance can be subtle. It may not be as obvious as declining to participate in a project. More often, we’ll attempt something but do it half-heartedly or rely on crutches.
For example, let’s say that you lack confidence in your ability to introduce yourself. You may not avoid it (you know you can’t sit there and say nothing), but you use the crutches of speaking really fast, looking down, and not saying an interesting fact about yourself.
Or let’s say that someone lacked confidence about confronting people and having difficult conversations. She may attempt to confront someone but she tries so hard to be nice and not offend that person (her crutch) that she lacks assertiveness and doesn’t express her needs.
Where can we learn more?
If you like these ideas, get the proprietary systematic 6-step formula for moving outside your comfort zone and mastering key challenges (plus some great bonus offerings) with my new book The Confident Leader: How the Most Successful People Go from Effective to Exceptional. Have a look here:
http://www.ConfidentLeaderBook.com
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The Opus movie from the Creator of The Gratitude Experiment film, Douglas Vermeeren ~ Opening Scenes
The Opus movie quotes and music, from Douglas Vermeeren the Creator of The Gratitude Experiment
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I notice this morning that Douglas Vermeeren’s website for The Gratitude Experiment movie is now live!
http://www.gratitude-experiment.com/
The teaser trailer for this new film from Doug:
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The new avatars are going online with the next update which could go online as soon as top of the week!
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Antwerp and live music ? Come to Cyres on Saturday Nov 8, 2008 and enjoy !
Antwerpen and live music ? Kom en vergezel ons op zaterdag 8 november en geniet !
November 8, 2008
20h30 to 22h00
Cyres Café has the honor to present an evening with the delightful Canadian Singer/ Song Writer Jen PACHES. This marvelous singer performs along with her electronic piano. Should you wish a preview of her work, you are most welcome to visit www.jenpaches.com and savor a touching selection of her uplifting music.
8 november 2008
20h30 tot 22h00
Cyres Café heeft het genoegen u een avond aan te bieden met de krachtige Canadese zangeres/liedjesschrijver Jen PACHES. Deze aangename zangeres laat zich begeleiden door haar electronische piano. Zou u willen proeven van haar werk, dan nodigen we u hartelijk uit op haar website www.jenpaches.com om daar een selectie te vinden van haar opwaarderende muziek.
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~ Vision of Love in Action ~
Announcing “CYRES World” Exclusive Preview Week!
Join us for an exclusive Pre-Opening week of gathering for Cyres Circle Connections
Don’t be shy! Join in the fun!
Create Your Reality Experience Self
Savor The Good Life
Calling you to conversations that matter.
Cyres World makes the freshest, most flavorful cup of experience around. We brew to your taste every time.
Inspiring you to make changes of your own. A place to grow intentions for personal, social, and global well-being. A beautiful place of smiles, laughter, friendship, videos, music, and more.
A world view that expresses, we’re all in this together, no one is separate.
Cyres World is a positive path to being more in tune with who you really are. Inquire, explore, discover, and visualize. Dream awake, share and find support.
A great source of inspiration and resources, includes the best content, community, and culture to help make your dreams reality.
Group interactions, meditation possibilities, networking events, retreat spaces, meeting points, avenues of awareness, “cafes,” and continuous expansion. Becoming, more and more, globally conscious citizens.
We, unity in diversity, are becoming more the possibility of a planet of higher consciousness. Together we can build a powerful foundation and new frameworks for appreciation, freedom, and joyous co-creative experience.
It is love that can change the world
Cyres World 3dVR Download
http://www.cyresworld.com/Cyres-World-Download.php
website:
for a preview selection of Building Projects:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/cyrescafe/
Beginning, wherever you are, November 8th
Mahatma Gandhi
“BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD”
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AANKONDIGING – VOORPROEFJE VAN DE CYRES WERELD
~ Zicht op Liefde in actie ~
We stellen u een voorproefje voor van de exclusieve week bij ‘CYRES World’
We nodigen u uit voor een exclusieve voor-opening week van de bijeenkomst voor onze Cyres Circle Connections
Open jezelf en geniet samen met ons van de vreugde !
Schep je eigen realiteitservaring zelf
Geniet van het goede leven
We trekken je aan om te praten over dingen die van belang zijn
Cyres World bied je een meest verfrissende en smaakvolle kopje aan en we brouwen uw smaak elke keer opnieuw.
We inspireren u uw eigen verandering vorm te geven. Een plaats om intentioneel te groeien naar persoonlijk, sociaal and zelfs globaal welzijn. Een prachtige plaats voor een glimlach, een lachpartij, vriendschap, video’s, muziek en veel meer.
Een wereldvisie dat tot uitdrukking komt, we zijn hierin allemaal samen, niemand is afzonderlijk hiervan.
Cyres World is een positieve mogelijkheid om meer in lijn te zijn met wie je werkelijk bent. Onderzoek en ontdek, visualiseer. Droom hardop, deel met ons en vind steun.
Een enorme bron van inspiratie en middelen, waarbij de diepste inhoud, een gevoel van samenhorigheid en cultuur je wildste dromen tot een realiteit maken.
Groep interacties, mogelijk meditaties, networking momenten, ruimte voor inkeer, ontmoetingsplaats, wegen van bewustzijn, ‘cafe’s’ en voortdurende expansie. Worden, meer en meer, en groeien naar globaal bewuste burgers.
Wij, eenheid in verscheidenheid, worden meer en meer de mogelijkheid op aarde met een hoger bewustzijn. Samen bouwen we een krachtige fundering en een nieuwe omkadering van waardering, in vrijheid en een ervaring van vreugdevolle co-creatie.
Liefde is wat de wereld verandert.
Cyres World 3dVR Download
http://www.cyresworld.com/Cyres-World-Download.php
website:
Voor een geselectioneerde voorproef van onze ‘bouwprojecten’
http://www.flickr.com/photos/cyrescafe/
Begin waar je bent, 8 november 2008
Mahatma Gandhi
‘WEES DE VERANDERING DIE JE IN WERELD WIL ZIEN’
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more photos of co-creations-in-progress added to the Cyres Family Photo Album today!
Those Cyres Master Builders sure are beautifully imaginative!
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A selection of fab photos from around the Tuning In Station. Broadcasting freedom, joy, and growth. Tune into discovering who you truly are and experience connection to Source.
Around this station, the Abraham Plaza, the BEach, the Co-Exist Pavillions, and The Monroe Institute build.
In~joy!
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This just in from singer/musician Heather Renee, after she was sent the final photos of her place in Cyres World:
WOW!!!! That is incredible
I’m sooooo excited. Thank you sooo much for this site Cann. I can’t express in words how thrilled I am. I wish you could see me because I’m jumping up and down with joy!!!!!
