I have a friend who works with me in the office. She opened up to me about her desire to retire and the fear she felt about the change to her income that this would bring.
We talked about the basics of pensions and outgoings, before we got to the root of the matter.
She felt she was financially trapped in a work situation because of her worry about finances in the future. She felt that she had been left with no choice!
This was having a detrimental effect on her ability to work. She was checking things over and over again, staying late at work, taking on other people’s work, partly because she likes to help people and partly because of a fear that she might be considered too old to do her job.
Realistically, this was adding too much to her workload. It was having the effect of making her appear grumpy, as she was unhappy with her work / finances situation … and it showed!
I suggested to her that she be realistic about the extra work she kept taking on. I reminded her that nobody makes her unhappy, she has chosen to do that to herself and only she could choose to think differently. Encouraged her to dissolve her fear before acting by talking it out. We then talked about the future in hopeful ways and about expecting good things.
The flowers in my living room are not anxious. They do not choose to experience needless worries!
In her panic, she had made a mountain out of a molehill in regard to her future finances.
We always have choices - and yet, we try hard to ignore this and give ourselves a hard time by worrying.
Often, this worrying can adversely affect the very ‘problem’ we are supposedly trying to avoid.
I suppose that ‘problem’ is an emotive word that is not helping our perception of things.
So, back to basics, again, *smile* …….
WE CAN CHOOSE HOW WE VIEW LIFE
Choose wisely and live in love … Jane’s Mum
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